Tuesday, November 13, 2012

From the Etiquette of a Son with his Father

Abû Hurayrah – Allâh be pleased with him – once saw two men. He asked one of them, “How is this man related to you?” He replied, “He is my father.” Abû Hurayrah said, “Do not call him by his name, do not walk in front of him and do not sit before he does.”

Al-Bukhârî, Al-Adab Al-Mufrad. Shaykh Al-Albânî graded its chain of transmission sahîh in Sahîh Al-Adab Al-Mufrad Vol. 1 p19.


Source:The Muslim Kids Page

Sunday, October 14, 2012

The Greater The Hardship The Greater The Reward II

Imam Ahmed brought it and Sheikh Nassir brings in his Saheehah No. 147 : Suhaib said that, 'we were sitting with the Prophet (sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam) and suddenly he laughed. Suddenly the Prophet (sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam) laughed. He asked his companions: 'Won't you ask me what I am laughing about?.' So they asked the Prophet (sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam) 'what are you laughing about ?' So he said : 'I laughed because I was astonished at the affair of a believer.' (Listen these are words of Musthafa alaihi salam. He doesn't speak of his own desires whatever he speaks it is revelation; Listen, these are words of Rasulullah describing a believer.). All of his affairs, all of his circumstances are good, all of it. If something happens to him that he loves, if Allah blesses him with something that he loves, then he praises Allaah and this is good. And if something happens to him, if he is put into some difficulty, test or tribulation or hardship or something that he hates, he is patient and that is good for him. And no o­ne's situation is totally good except the believer. And no o­ne else's affair, no o­ne else's circumstance, no o­ne else's condition, no o­ne else's situation is totally good except the mu'min, except the believer.'
'The o­nes who received the most difficulty, and went through the most hardship were the beloved people to Allaah --- the prophets. Allah loved them more than the rest of mankind or creatures. He tested them. He put them through test , he put them through hardship, he put them through difficulties. Listen to this narration of Ibn Majah and Sheikh Nassir also brings in his Saheehah No. 144 : (Sahaba's name not clear) uffe
"I entered upon the Prophet (sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam) before he passed away whilst he was sring having a fever -- I placed my hand upon him and I felt the heat from above the blanket, I felt the heat of his fever from above the blanket. I said : 'O Messenger of Allaah, how hard it is upon you.' The Prophet (sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam ) said : 'Yes, it is like that. Trials and tribulations, hardships and difficulties are doubled and multiplied and increased for us prophets. But also the reward, the blessing, the level that he is raised with Allaah upon is also multiplied and increased for him.' I said : 'O Messenger of Allaah who are most put through difficulty? Who are the people who are most tested? Who goes through the most trials and tribulation O' Messenger of Allaah?' He said : 'The prophets, then the righteous (saalihun)' ,
some of them are tested with clothing, some of them are tested with no clothing except an abaya that they place around their bodies, nothing else. But o­ne of them used to be so happy when he was put to trial or test like you see enjoyment and pleasure and contentment through ease. They were happy with trials and tribulations like you are happy with ease."Allaah the Exalted states in Surah Al-Zumar: 


سُوۡرَةُ الزُّمَر
قُلۡ يَـٰعِبَادِ ٱلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُواْ ٱتَّقُواْ رَبَّكُمۡ‌ۚ لِلَّذِينَ أَحۡسَنُواْ فِى هَـٰذِهِ ٱلدُّنۡيَا حَسَنَةٌ۬‌ۗ وَأَرۡضُ ٱللَّهِ وَٲسِعَةٌ‌ۗ إِنَّمَا يُوَفَّى ٱلصَّـٰبِرُونَ أَجۡرَهُم بِغَيۡرِ حِسَابٍ۬ (١٠)
Surah Az-Zumar
"Verily the patient will get their reward without it being estimated, without it being calculated. It can't be counted. O­ne is waiting for reward, for that o­ne who is patient."
As-Sabr, patience Akhee Msulim, my brother Muslim, upon when you are put to trial, upon when you are put to test, upon when you go through sadness, upon when you go through hardship, upon when you go through difficulties, patience – As Sabr, then it is a sign that you are upon Khair. It is the sign that you are upon good. It is a distinguishing characteristic, or it is a distinguishing matter that shows that you are upon good. It is narrated in Abu Dawud : 

'Then it is saheeh, the happy o­ne, is the o­ne who can avoid trials and tribulations especially those that lead him astray or take him away from his deen, but the o­ne who is tested and is patient, so greater reward for him, unimaginable reward for him.'

Also it has been related by Bukhari and Muslim : Abbas said to Ibn Rabah :

"Shall I show you o­ne of the women of Jannah? Saudah, this black woman who told the Prophet (sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam) : Verily I have seizures and I become uncovered, make dua to Allaah for me.' The Prophet (sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam) said:
If you are patient you will have Jannah. And if you want I'll make dua for you that you be healthy. She said : 'I'll be patient, I'll be patient but make sure that I don't become uncovered.' So the Prophet (sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam) made dua to Allaah that she does not become uncovered.' 

This is how the Salaf were. Because of this some of the salafs used to say : If a difficulty happens to you, a hardship happens to you, if you are put to trial and tested and you are patient, then you have got o­nly o­ne difficulty. You have o­nly got o­ne hardship. You have o­nly got o­ne problem. Whenever a difficulty or hardship or trial comes your way and you are not patient, then you have two problems, and two hardships. And particularly if it is a loss of a child, or a loss of a loved o­ne. You are not patient with that then you have two difficulties.
The loss of the o­ne you love plus the loss of the reward you would have got if you had been patient. To be patient upon the tests, and the trials, and the hardships and the difficulties as a worship for Allaah, is a worship for Allaah. Many of us know that salaah is a worship, Zakah is a worship, and ruku is a worship and sujud is a worship, and reading Quraan is a worship , how many of us know that being patient upon a hardship, upon a sadness , being patient upon a difficulty, upon a test, upon a trial is a worship for Allaah. Allaah says in Surah Al-Hajj (22:11) : 


 سُوۡرَةُ الحَجّ
وَمِنَ ٱلنَّاسِ مَن يَعۡبُدُ ٱللَّهَ عَلَىٰ حَرۡفٍ۬‌ۖ فَإِنۡ أَصَابَهُ ۥ خَيۡرٌ ٱطۡمَأَنَّ بِهِۦ‌ۖ وَإِنۡ أَصَابَتۡهُ فِتۡنَةٌ ٱنقَلَبَ عَلَىٰ وَجۡهِهِۦ خَسِرَ ٱلدُّنۡيَا وَٱلۡأَخِرَةَ‌ۚ ذَٲلِكَ هُوَ ٱلۡخُسۡرَانُ ٱلۡمُبِينُ (١١)                                                                       Surah Al-Hajj

And among mankind is he who worshippeth Allah upon a narrow marge so that if good befalleth him he is content therewith, but if a trial befalleth him, he falleth away utterly. He loseth both the world and the Hereafter. That is the sheer loss. (11) 

Abu Uwais Abdullaah Ali [Rahimahullah]
Source:AbdurRahman.org
  

Friday, October 12, 2012

The Greater The Hardship The Greater The Reward

The greater the hardship, or trial or tribulation the greater the reward. The greater the difficulty the greater the reward. The greater the trial or tribulation or difficulty that you are put through the greater the reward will be for you and for me from Allah (Tabarak wa ta'ala).
If Allah loves a people, He puts them to trial, He tests them and places them in difficulty. Allah the Exalted states in Surah Baqarah :

سُوۡرَةُ البَقَرَة
وَلَنَبۡلُوَنَّكُم بِشَىۡءٍ۬ مِّنَ ٱلۡخَوۡفِ وَٱلۡجُوعِ وَنَقۡصٍ۬ مِّنَ ٱلۡأَمۡوَٲلِ وَٱلۡأَنفُسِ وَٱلثَّمَرَٲتِ‌ۗ وَبَشِّرِ ٱلصَّـٰبِرِينَ (١٥٥) ٱلَّذِينَ إِذَآ أَصَـٰبَتۡهُم مُّصِيبَةٌ۬ قَالُوٓاْ إِنَّا لِلَّهِ وَإِنَّآ إِلَيۡهِ رَٲجِعُونَ (١٥٦) أُوْلَـٰٓٮِٕكَ عَلَيۡہِمۡ صَلَوَٲتٌ۬ مِّن رَّبِّهِمۡ وَرَحۡمَةٌ۬‌ۖ وَأُوْلَـٰٓٮِٕكَ هُمُ ٱلۡمُهۡتَدُونَ (١٥٧



Surah Al-Baqara
And surely We shall try you with something of fear and hunger, and loss of wealth and lives and crops; but give glad tidings to the steadfast, (155) Who say, when a misfortune striketh them: Lo! we are Allah's and lo! unto Him we are returning. (156) Such are they on whom are blessings from their Lord, and mercy. Such are the rightly guided. (157)

The great reward is in accordance to how great o­nes trial, difficulty or test is. The greater the test and trial, the greater the reward. And everyone must have tests and everyone will have problems & trials and everyone will be put to difficulty, everyone will have moments of grief, moments of sadness moments when things are not as they feel or would like them to be. But the difference is the believer is patient, the believer believes in the decree of Allaah, the believer seeks the reward of Allaah (subhana wa ta'ala) at that time.

The believer praises Allah. The believer will be rewarded in his time of difficulty. The believer has burns and the Kaafir has burns. The believer needs an operation and a Kaafir needs an operation. The believer loses a mother and a Kaafir loses a mother. The believer loses his wife and the Kaafir will lose his wife. Everyone experiences difficulty. Everyone experiences trials and tribulations but the believer because of what Allaah (subhana wa ta'ala) has given him of Imaan and for what he has of patience and being pleased with the decree of Allaah, and seeking a reward from Allaah and seeing the wisdom of Allaah (subhana wa ta'ala) in his difficulty, he will be raised and he will receive great rewards.

Abu Dawud mentions in the Sunnan, related by Ahmad :
It is in the Saheehah (when you hear as-Saheehah it means it is authenticated by Shaikh Naasir ud-Din al-Albaani in his authentic books of narrations – Hadith No. 959) :The Prophet (sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam) said 


"This my Ummah, is a Ummah that has mercy upon it, 'Marhooma'- a Ummah that has mercy that's been wrapped in Mercies; there is no punishment for this Ummah in the Hereafter except their punishment that they experience in the Dunya --- killing and death and dying, trials and tribulations, earthquakes and the like." And the wording of Abu Dawud is :
'This Ummah reminds of the Ummah, that Allaah has placed His mercy upon. This Ummah will not have any punishment in the Hereafter, this punishment is in this world with fitn, trials, tribulations and punishments and difficulties, and earthquakes and killings, murder, death.. like this.

'As recorded in Buhari and Muslim: The Prophet (sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam) said :

"Whoever Allah wants good for him, he puts them to test. He puts them through difficulties. Like a diamond or some metal that has to be burnt and then that which is bad from it is removed so that you have that which is the pure diamond or the pure gold or whatever. Put them to tests, trials and difficulties."

As narrated by Tirmidhi and Ibn Maajah : (This is the Hadith that we started with) - The Prophet (sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam) said :
'The greater reward is with the greater trial or the greater the trial or difficulty of test or hardship is then the greater the reward. And when Allah loves a person He will tests them. So he who will be pleased and then He will be pleased. He who is displeased, then He will be displeased.'(Sahaba's name not clear) 'The people as long as they are in good health, good shape, good condition they are covered. You don't know their true character because they are in good situation, they are in good circumstance. As long as they are in a good circumstances they are covered. But if a trial or difficulty or a hardship comes upon them, then you will see their reality. They will go to their reality. The Mu'min will run to his Imaan, the Mu'min will run to his belief, the believer will run to his belief, his Imaan and the hypocrite will run to his hypocrisy, and the hypocrite will run to his hypocrisy. "Without being shaken, you don't not know what comes to the top and what goes to the bottom. Without being shaken you don't know a man from those who are faking; you won't know women from those who are faking. You won't know those who truly believe from those who don't. Those who make a claim o­n their tongue and is not really in their hearts and from their limbs from those who are willing to die for this matter. This can o­nly be shown by trials, the tribulations and tests and difficulties."


Abu Uwais Abdullaah Ali [Rahimahullah]
Source:AbdurRahman.org
 

Wednesday, September 26, 2012

How Musa's Mother was inspired and shown what to do

It was mentioned that when Fir`awn killed so many of the males of the Children of Israel, the Copts were scared that the Children of Israel would die out, and they themselves would have to do the heavy labor that the Children of Israel used to do. So they said to Fir`awn, "If this continues, and their old men die and the young men are killed, their women will not be able to do the work that the men are doing, and we will end up having to do it.'' So Fir`awn issued orders that the boys should be killed one year, and left alone the following year. Harun, peace be upon him, was born in a year when the boys were not killed, and Musa was born in a year when the boys were being killed. Fir`awn had people who were entrusted with this task. There were midwives who would go around and check on the women, and if they noticed that any woman was pregnant, they would write her name down. When the time came for her to give birth, no one was allowed to attend her except for Coptic women. If the woman gave birth to a girl, they would leave her alone and go away, but if she gave birth to a boy, the killers would come in with their sharp knives and kill the child, then they would go away; may Allah curse them. When the mother of Musa became pregnant with him, she did not show any signs of pregnancy as other women did, and none of the midwives noticed. But when she gave birth to a boy, she became very distressed and did not know what to do with him. She was extremely scared for him, because she loved him very much. No one ever saw Musa, peace be upon him, but they loved him, and the blessed ones were those who loved him both as a natural feeling and because he was a Prophet. Allah says:
(And I endued you with love from Me) (20:39).

Saturday, July 7, 2012

Breastfeeding:


Afterward, the mother should focus on breastfeeding the newborn child until the age of weaning.

Natural milk from the mother has a huge effect in the health and upbringing of a child. Allaah instructs the mothers to breastfeed their children for two complete years. This is for those wish to complete the period of breastfeeding. Allaah says:

"The mothers shall give suck to their children for two whole years (that is) for those (parents) who desire to complete the term of suckling." [Surah Al-Baqarah: 233]

The reason for this is because the infant senses the affection of the mother while breastfeeding and he is in need of that.

Modern medicine has confirmed that there is a high percentage rate of disease and death for those children that were fed in their infancy with processed milk. Natural milk is also advantageous to the mother's health in terms of mending the uterus after delivery and her digestive system.

Islaam also encourages it for it permits the breastfeeding mother to break her fast in Ramadaan if the fast will have an effect on her breastfeeding.

Perhaps one of the reasons why many children are not affectionately attached to their mothers and why there is such widespread disobedience of them in these times is due to the lack of using natural milk and the high use of processed milk.

Since breastfeeding has such an effect on the child being breastfed, the Prophet (sallAllaahu 'alayhi wa sallam) prohibited Muslims from employing a dumb woman for the purposing of breastfeeding one's child. [1]

Ibn Qaasim, may Allaah have mercy on him, said in Haashiyat-ur-Rawd commenting on this hadeeth: "This is since breastfeeding has an effect on an individual's nature." Then he said: "Al-Qaadee mentioned that whoever is breastfed from a stupid woman, the child too will come out being stupid. And whoever is breastfed from a woman with bad manners, it will pass onto him. And whoever is breastfed from an animal, he will come out senseless, like an animal." [2]

Ibn Qudaamah, may Allaah have mercy on him, said in al-Mughnee: "It is said: 'Breastfeeding changes personalities.'"

So how much more so for those who are fed formula milk which one does not even know the source from where it came or who processed it?

Source: "Raising Children in Light of the Qur'aan and Sunnah" by 'Abdus-Salaam As-Sulaymaan. The book was introduced and commended by Shaikh Saalih Al-Fawzaan.]

Thursday, May 10, 2012

Showing Mercy Towards Children is a Means of Achieveing the Mercy of Allah

Chapter: Whoever Does Not Show Mercy Will Not Be Shown Mercy (pages 117-122):

Aboo Hurayrah narrated that the Messenger of Allah, salallahu 'alaihi wa salam, kissed Al-Hasan while Al-Aqra ibn Haabis at-Tameemee was sitting near him.  A-Aqra said, "Indeed I have ten children and I have never kissed any of them."  The Messenger of Allah looked at him and said,  "Whoever does not show mercy will not be shown mercy."  [Saheeh al-Bukhaari, 426/10]

From Shaddaad ibn Aws who said that the Messenger of Alah, salallahu 'alaihi wa salam, said, "Verily Allah has perscribed al-ihsaan (excellence) for everything.  So when you kill, you should kill in the best manner.  And when you slaughter, you should slaughter in the best manner.  Let each of you sharpen his knife to provide ease for his animal."  [Saheeh Muslim]

"Al-ihsaan" or "excellence" in the arabic language is procifency in performing an action, while perfecting it with sincerity.  In Islaamic law, Al-Ihsaan is what the Prophet, salallahu 'alaihi wa salam, has explained in his statement:  "That you worship Allah as though you see Him, but since you are un able to see Him, then He most certainly sees you."

Ibn Rajab said concerning the prophetic narration of Shaddaad, "This prophetic narration indicates the obligation of excellence in all of the actions."  [Jami'Al-Uloom 151]

From the types of mercy which can be shown to a child is kissing him:  'Aa'ishah said that a Bedouin man came to the Prophet, salallahu 'alaihi wa salam, and  said, "You (people) kiss the children and we do not kiss them."  So the Prophet said, "Is there anything that I can do once Allah has removed mercy from your heart?"  [Saheeh Al-Bukhari 426/10]

'Umayr ibn Ishaaq said, "I was with Al-Hasan ibn 'Alee when we met with Aboo Hurayrah who said, "Show me where I might kiss you in the place where I saw the messenger of Allah kiss."  He replied, "Al-Qameesah" (shirt or upper garment), He said, "So he kissed the front of his stomach."  [Ahmed with a hasan chain]

From the types of mercy that can be shown to a child is carrying him while in prayer.  Abu Qataadah said that the Prophet, salallahu 'alaihi wa sallam, came out to us with Umaamah bint Abeel-'Aas on his shoulders.  Then he prayed.  When he bowed, he placed her on the ground and when he rose from bowing, he lifted her back off the ground."  [
Saheeh Al-Bukhaari]

On the authority of Abu Shaddaad, from his father, who said that the Prophet, salallahu 'alaihi wa sallam, came out to us for one of the 'ishaa prayers carrying Hasan and Husayn.  The Messenger of Allah stepped forward and set them both down.  Then he prayed and prostrated between their backs a single prostration that was lengthy.  My (Abu Shaddaad's) father said, 'Then I raised my head and the child was on the back of the Messenger of Allah while he was prostrating.  I then returned to my prostration.'  So once the Messenger of Allah had completed his prayer, the people said, 'O Messenger of Allah, certainly you have prostrated between two backs in your prayer.  Certainly the length of this prostration led us to believe that something had happened or that revelation had decended upon you.'  He, salallahu 'alaihi wa sallam, said, 'None of that occured, rather this child moved around me and I didn't wish to disturb him until he had finished.'  [hadeeth collected in An-Nasaa'ee, authenticated by Shaykh Muqbil]

From the types of mercy that can be shown to smaller children is playing with them:  Umm Khaalid bint Khaalid ibn Sa'eed said, "I came to the Messenger of Allah, salallahu 'alaihi wa sallam, along with my father and I was wearing a yellow shirt.  The messenger of Allah said, 'Sanah, sanah!' (this means 'good' in the ethiopian langauge)  Umm Khaalid further said, 'Then I started playing with the seal of Prophethood.  My father admonished me, but the Messenger of Allah said (to my father) 'Leave her.'  The Messenger of Allah then addressed me saying, 'Ablee wa akhliqee, thumma ablee wa akhliqee, thumma ablee wa akhliqee.' (Trans. note: This phrase 'ablee wa akhliqee' is used by the arabs to supplicate for an extended life.  Its meaning could be conveyed in the following expression: 'May you live so long that your garments become worn and ragged.')  So she (Umm Khaalid) remained this way until (this supplication for her became actualized and subsequently) she would be mentioned by the people," meaning that she would remain until her garments became old and ragged.  [Saheeh Al-Bukhaari 425/10]

Mahmood ibn Ar-Rabee' said, "I remember when I was a boy of Five years old, the Prophet, salallahu 'alaihi wa sallam, took water from a bucket with his mouth (majjatan majjahaa) and threw it in my face." 

Al-Haafidh said, " 'Majj' is the expelling of water from the mouth.  It is said that nothing is refered to as 'majj' except if it is from a distance.   The action of the Prophet, salallahu 'alaihi wa sallam, with Mahmood was either from his play with him or it was a means of blessing him with it just as he used to do with the children of his companions."

Anas ibn Maalik said, "Certainly the Prophet, salallahu 'alaihi wa sallam, used to spend time with us to the extent that he even said to my young brother, 'Oh father of 'Umayr, what did the little birdie do?'  "  [Saheeh Al-Bukhaari 526/10]

In addition, from the types of mercy that can be shown to a child is placing the child in one's lap.  'Usaamah ibn Zayd said that the Messenger of Allah, salallahu 'alaihi wa sallam, used to take me and place me on his thigh and he would place al-Hasan ibn 'Alee on his other thigh, then he would come close to us and say, "Oh Allah!  Please be merciful to them, for indeed, I am merciful to them."  [
Saheeh Al-Bukhaari 434/10]

Therefore, this is how one might be affectionate with the smaller children concerning everything they might need or how they might be amused.  This is an appropiate means of showing them mercy and affection, as long as this does not lead towards bringing about improper behavior.

Certainly the Prophet, salallahu 'alaihi wa sallam, has praised the women of Quraysh because they possessed praiseworthy characteristics and from them is their affection for children.

Narrated upon Abu Hurayrah that the Messenger of Allah, salallahu 'alaihi wa sallam, said, "The best wome to ever ride the camel were the women of Quraysh."  [Saheeh Al-Bukhari 511/9]

He also said, "The most righteous from the women of Quraysh are those who are most affectionate ("ahnaah") to the child during its youth and who are most protective concerning their husband's property."  Al-Haafidh said that "ahnaah" is from affection, which is compassion and tenderness.

The mercy that is shown to the young children and other than them is from the reasons that cause a person to achieve the mercy of Allah. 

It has also reached us from the Prophet, slallahu 'alaihi wa sallam, that he said, "He is not from us who does not show mercy to the young and does not honor the old."  




Source:From Umm 'Abdillah Al-Waadi'iyyah's "Naseehati Lin-Nisaa' " (My Advice to the Women).

Jazaha Allah khayrn the sister who typed the excerpt from the book (My Advice to the Women).

Saturday, March 17, 2012

Who Took such Great Care of You?


Ibn Qayyim says:
“Look then at yourself again, and think:
Who took such great care of you? – since you were a fetus in the belly of your mother, in a place where no hand could extend help to you, and no eye could reach you? You had then no way of seeking food or fending for yourself.
When your skin was judged to be strong enough to be exposed to air, your eyes strong enough to meet the light outside, and your bones were sturdy enough to withstand the touch of hands and life on earth, your mother had the labour that ushered you out into the world of ordeals, with all its attendant hardships.
And then He opened that gate and expanded it? for you to exit in the twinkling of an eye? You were not suffocated with its narrowness, and you were not held by the hardship of your passage through it. If you contemplate your entrance through that gate and then your exit through it, you will have enough to wonder at: Who inspired it to tighten when you were a drop so that you would not be infected, and later had it expand and open wide for you to exit strong and healthy?
Then you came out alone, unescorted, weak, without shelter, or clothing, or property, or money: you were the neediest, weakest, and poorest of creatures. But He ordered the nourishment that you received inside to be transformed into milk preserved in two reservoirs hung on the breast of your mother. She bears your nourishment on her breast as she bore you inside her belly. Milk flows to those two reservoirs for you in the subtlest way through paths that have been predesigned to carry it; it pauses in those paths until the milk already in the reservoirs is exhausted, and then a replenishment is provided for yon to suck. It is like a well that is never depleted, and is never blocked, running to you through obscure ways, untrodden ways! Who led it to follow those ways? Who purified it and gave it a delicious taste? Who chose its agreeable colour and made it to perfection? It is neither too hot nor too cold, neither bitter nor salty nor foul of scent. The teat at its Tip is just the right size for your mouth, neither too big for it, nor uncomfortably small. The pore at its tip is just big enough for your convenience, neither big in a way that suffocates you, nor small in a way that you need to exert yourself in sucking at it; it is just the amount that the Great Judge has arranged to fit your convenience.
Who directed The mother’s heart to have all that extraordinary compassion for you and amazing mercy, so that she dedicates to you the warmest, most convenient and the most precious of her devotion. On the slightest crying or complaint you make, she will every time put your pleasure before hers, even if that happens every moment. She would come obediently to attend to your needs, without any call or exhortation but the call of her mercy and the exhortation of her compassion. She wished that any affliction you suffered were inflicted on her body, that not the slightest pain should come to you, that years may be cut off from her life and added to yours, Who made her feel like that?
And then, after your body grew robust, your intestine expanded, your bones stiffened, and you needed tougher food, to solidify your bones, and strengthen your flesh, He supplied you with the tool of cutting and grinding, the incisors that cut the food, and the molars that grind it. Who held back the growth of your teeth while you were a sucking infant, out of mercy for your mother, and then let them out at the time you needed them, out of mercy for you, as a blessing and a boon to you? How would it be for your mother if you were born with incisors, canine teeth and molars? And if you lacked the same at the time you needed them what would you have done with the foods that are not digestible before they are cut and ground? Observe how the stronger you grew, and the more you needed teeth to eat various nutrients, those tools in your mouth were increased, until you had canine teeth, that can stand the tearing of meat, the cutting of bread, and the breaking of solid foods.
In His vast judgement, Allaah willed that you emerge from your mother’s belly knowing nothing, a blank that has no intellect, no comprehension and no knowledge. This is reality His mercy, since you, in your frailty, would not stand thinking, comprehension and knowledge: they would have shattered you. He rather evolved that gradually in you, step by step, so that it does not overwhelm you should it come in one blow. It grows in you little by little until it is fully grown. You may see an illustration of this in the infant who is snatched into slavery from its parents and from home before it has understanding: you see how it does not mind at all, while the more understanding it has, the more it feels the blow of bereavement. An adult taken into slavery is seen to be like one dazed and obsessed. Consider also that if you were born with your full intellectual power your life would have been one of great misery and vexation, for in that case you would see yourself a newborn, lactating infant, swaddled in some pieces of cloth, confined in your cradle, frail and unable to act, unlike the older people around you. So what would life be like in that state? Besides, you would not in that case have that sweetness, loveliness and appeal to all hearts and the affection that people have for the very young; you would rather be the most unpopular, burdensome, stubborn and curious of creatures.
That you entered this world as a dullard who understands nothing, who knows nothing about what people engage in, has been sheer mercy and deep judgement; since’ you encounter things with your feeble mental power and without prior knowledge of things, and then your mental power and knowledge grow steadily and slowly, until you become familiarized with things. You practice things, and gradually overcome your bewilderment at them; then you stop being surprised and amazed at them; you begin to receive them with confidence, acting on them and taking control of them. There is even more to it than this. Who, then, is keeping such a close watch over you, keen to attend to your progressive needs, requisites, desires and tools at the time of their arising, not before and not later?” 

Source : Men and the Universe – Reflections of the Universe, by Ibn Qayyim.

            مفتاح دار السعادة لإبن القيم الجوزية

Monday, February 20, 2012

Cheating in exams



Eleventh question of Fatwa no. 6290

Q 11: Some Muslim youth study hard but they forget what they study. They are not lazy; rather, they exert every effort to revise their lessons before the exams but it is as if they had done nothing. Some other students do very little revision but they receive one hundred percent better than those who revise and work very hard but finally do not comprehend anything. Moreover, while doing the exam, they do not recall what they have studied but their friends can tell them about the correct answers and without such help they will definitely fail. is this help that two friends can exchange regarding answering exam questions considered a form of cheating? The Messenger (peace be upon him) said: Whoever deceives us is not of us 'is not my follower'. Please clarify this point for us. May Allah reward you with the best.



A: What you have mentioned in the question is considered cheating and this is Haram (prohibited) based on the Hadith which is mentioned in the question. This form of cheating is also Haram for it is a danger to education as it decreases its level and spreads anarchy in its process. Moreover, cheating affects the society in a negative way when the students who have done it start to work and are in charge of undertaking the responsibility of achieving the interests of the Ummah (nation). Besides this and other things, this form of cheating is included in the generality of the Hadith mentioned above: Whoever deceives us is not of us 'is not my follower'. Wise Muslims should consider the public interest and give it priority over that which is private and partial. In other words, even though cheating seems to lead to a partial interest; it is in fact a harm that afflicts whoever passes the exam by means of cheating, and others who will be in charge of running the affairs of the Ummah.


(Part No. 12; Page No. 202)


May Allah grant us success. May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, and Companions.

The Permanent Committ

Source: alifta.net

http://www.alifta.net/fatawa/fatawaDetails.aspx?View=Page&PageID=4428&PageNo=1&BookID=7

Wednesday, February 8, 2012

How Should Our Muslim Girls Dress?


Q. Some people have made it their habit to dress their daughters in short, tight clothing that describes the body, whether they be young or old. I hope that you can guide and advise such people.
A.It is obligatory upon a person to observe his responsibility. It is upon him to fear Allah and prevent all those who have control over his girls from dressing them in such clothing. For it has been authenticated from the Prophet (SallAllahu ʿalayhi wa allam), that he said:
Two types from the inhabitants of the hellfire i have not yet seen…..”Then he mentioned:“…clothed women but yet naked,alluring in their walk and in their heads like the leaning humps of camels. They will not enter paradise or smell it’s scent…”
These women who wear short skirts are clothed because they are wearing clothing, but they are naked due to the fact that their private zone is revealed. For the entire body of a woman is her private zone, regarding to viewing by non-mahrams, including her face hands and feet. Similarily, naked is the woman who wears tight clothing, for she appears to be clothed but in reality she is naked, because the detailed description of the body through tight clothing is nakedness. It is upon a woman to fear Allah and not reveal her beauties. She should not go to the markets except wearing clothes that do not turn heads and she should not be perfumed so as not to attract men in which case it would be feared that she is an adulterous woman. It is upon a muslim woman not to leave her house except for a needy requirement. If she does leave it she should not be perfumed, beautified or walk in a lewd fashion. Let it be known that the Prophet (sall Allahu ʿalayhi wa sallam) said:
” I have not left behind me a trial more harmful to men than women.”
The trial of women is immense and virtually no one is safe from it. It is upon our nation of muslims not to follow the paths of the enemies of Allah, such as the Jews, Christians and others. For verily, this issue is of enormous importance. it is narrarated from him (Sall Allahu ʿalayhi wa sallam) that he said:
“Verily Allah gives respite to an oppressor  until the time that he seizes him, then he does not allow him to escape.”
 

He then read the Most High’s words:
 سُوۡرَةُ هُود
وَكَذَٲلِكَ أَخۡذُ رَبِّكَ إِذَآ أَخَذَ ٱلۡقُرَىٰ وَهِىَ ظَـٰلِمَةٌ‌ۚ إِنَّ أَخۡذَهُ ۥۤ أَلِيمٌ۬ شَدِيدٌ (١٠٢)

{Such is the grip of your Lord when He grips the towns while they are doing wrong. Verily, His grip is painful and severe.}  [Hood:102]. Those propagators of Islam who call to the unveiling of women’s faces and free mixing of the sexes are upon clear misguidance and immense ignorance, for they are at variance with the guidance of Allah and His messenger. They are ignorant or play ignorant to what has happened to those nations that have been afflicted with these issues. They seek escapement from this disaster, but how is that possible for them when they take such a stance? It has become a habit that will not be changed except with a huge effort. Allah is the helper.
Source:[By: Shaykh Muhammad Ibn Saalih Al Uthaymeen|Islamic Fatawaa Regarding the Muslim Child pg.152, |Fataawa Manaar al-Islaam: 3/809]

Saturday, February 4, 2012

Fataawa on Kids' Cartoons and Dolls

              



Shaykh Abu Usaamah Wasiullaah ‘Abbaas حفظه الله تعالى
 
Introduction to the Shaykh

Shaykh Abu Usaamah Wasiullaah ‘Abbaas حفظه الله تعالى is a well-known scholar from Makkah. He is a teacher at Masjidul-Haram and a professor at Ummul-Quraa University. He is a regular lecturer at AlBaseerah.org and an OIC (Online Intensive Courses) teacher where he teaches the Fiqh class every third Saturday (of the month) when he explains ad-Durrar al-Bahiyyah.

These fataawa are from the Q&A after the Shaykh's lecture:

Question: Is it permissible to let children watch Arabic cartoons for teaching purpose?

Answer: Regarding the children watching cartoons for teaching purposes as mentioned in the question i.e. as a form of educating the children, then Inshaa’Allaah there is nothing wrong with this. Perhaps allowing the children to watch cartoons for educational purposes may be a breath of fresh air for the children and also a breath of fresh air for the parent. It may give them some time to enjoy themselves and time to play apart from the normal ways of teaching. This is if it was as mentioned in the question i.e. if it is used for educational purpose.

    However, you find that there are certain cartoons which teach children how to steal and how to kill and there are cartoons which have no benefit in them; these types are those which the parent should keep their children away from as this is nurturing which is not beneficial. Rather, it will corrupt the children, and it is incumbent upon the parent to keep their children away from these types of cartoons. As for the cartoons that the children can benefit from as a form of teaching and educational tool then Inshaa’Allaah there is nothing wrong with this.


 
Question: Is it permissible for little girls to play with baby dolls? Some parents say that these are images or could be used as idols. This is what is commonly mentioned in America in relation to these types of toys such as the Barbie dolls, and here in Saudi Arabia they have what is called the Fula dolls which could probably be better because she is a Muslim, she has a khimaar, a jilbaab and everything else. However, the point is that some parents remove the head from the doll and then give it to the child, making it undesirable for the child to play with as the child doesn’t want to play with a doll without a head. Is this type of doll to be looked at as an idol or an image or something that is impermissible for the children to play with?

Answer: If this toy or doll is the type of doll which is magnified or glorified like ‘China dolls’ or dolls which the child is not allowed to touch – perhaps it is made from wood or glass or it is placed in a particular box or something like that, then this is something that is prohibited. This is what is prohibited.

    As for the baby doll that is in the form of a girl or a boy or like this, and it is something that the child plays with and which the child throws around; something that you may find lying on the ground and the child picks it up and plays with it; then there is nothing wrong with this. `A’ishah رضي الله عنها had a toy horse with two wings which she used to play with; the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم acknowledged this and he never stopped her from playing with it. This is not the type of image/form which is prohibited in Islaam. The image/form that is prohibited is the one that is magnified or glorified and the one that no one should touch or play with. It may be in the form of a man or woman or like this. As for the toy that the child plays with, there is nothing wrong with it; it is not haraam because it is for children.

    The Shaykh حفظه الله added to this, that the legislation of Islaam has prohibited taking dogs as pets and has prohibited pigs from being eaten or taken as pets as it is itself something that is najis (impure). Due to this, it is not permissible to play with toys in the image/form of a pig, a dog or anything that the legislation of Islaam has prohibited. This is not appropriate. However, if it is in the form of a lion, a camel or any animal which Islaam has not prohibited then this is okay.

Source:Taken From the transcribed lecture:
As-Seerah an-Nabawiyyah
by Shaykh Wasiullaah 'Abbaas حفظه الله
Delivered on January 30th, 2007
[http://www.albaseerah.org/forum/showthread.php?t=3126]

Wednesday, January 18, 2012

Our Children and the Masjid


The Statement of the Messenger : - صلى الله عليه وسلم
"Order your children to pray at the age of seven, and hit them [lightly if they don't] when they are ten and separate them from one another in their beds."
These are Islaamic etiquettes that must be adhered to; ordering the children to pray at the age of seven. Ordering them does not mean that you say; ‘Pray’ to them and that’s it, the Messenger - عليه الصلاة والسلام - ordering us to order our children to pray necessitates that we teach them how to pray. Otherwise, ordering your child to go the Masjid to pray while you haven’t taught him how to purify himself or how to pray is not fulfilling your responsibility. You fulfill your responsibility when you teach him how to purify himself, teach him how to pray, then order him to pray, it is then that you have acted out the order [of the Messenger].
As for the negligence of a lot of people, those who bring their child to the Masjid at the age of seven or younger, without being in a state of purity, without knowing how to pray, and then place them in the row – then this row is considered to be disconnected because of this child standing there. This is because this child is not praying, and this Hadeeth is enacted on the parent:
"Whoever connects the line will be connected by Allaah [to His reward], and whoever disconnects the line will be disconnected by Allaah [from His reward]."
You carry a child that does not understand how to pray, and you place him in the front row with you behind the Imaam? The people are only being silent out of courtesy, because this child is not in prayer, he may not even be upon purity, maybe not even in his physical body. This is because you just took him from your home without teaching him how to purify himself and how to pray to begin with.
This is erroneous, what you should be doing is teaching him how to purify himself and how to pray in your home firstly, then you teach him where and how to stand in the row [in the Masjid].

Author: Al Imaam Muhammad Amaan al Jaamee 


 Translator: Abu Abdul-Waahid, Nadir Ahmad
 المترجم :أبو عبد الواحد نادر أحمد

Source: subulassalaam.com

 

Monday, January 16, 2012

رحمك الله يا أمى كلمة الشيخ محمد سعيد رسلان- حفظه الله


رحمك الله يا أمى و أسكنك فسيح جناتك.... ورحم جميع موتى المسلمين

هذه كلمة الشيخ محمد سعيد رسلان- حفظه الله - قبل صلاة الجنازة على والدته رحمها الله تعالى, وأسكنها الفردوس الأعلى من الجنة, إنه جواد كريم. 

الْحَمْدُ للهِ وَحْدَهُ, وَالصَّلَاةُ وَالسَّلَامُ عَلَى مَنْ لَا نَبِيَّ بَعْدَهُ.
أَمَّا بَعْدُ:
فَرَحِمَكِ اللَّهُ يَا أُمِّي، وَغَفَرَ لَكِ، وَأَحْسَنَ إِلَيْكِ، وَأَفْضَلَ عَلَيْكِ، فَقَدْ وَاللَّهِ ذَهَبَ بِذَهَابِكِ الْيَوْمَ أَكْثَرِي، وَمَا بَقِيَ مِنْ قَلِيلِي لَا يُغْنِي شَيْئًا فِي وَحْشَةِ الْبَيْدَاءِ وَوُعُورَةِ الطَّرِيقِ، وَفِي زَمَنٍ نَدَرَ فِيهِ الْحَبِيبُ، وَقَلَّ الصَّدِيقُ، وَعَزَّ الوَلِيُّ النَّصِيرُ، كَفَى بِاللَّهِ وَلِيًّا وَكَفَى بِاللَّهِ نَصِيرًا.
أَمَا وَاللَّهِ إِنِّي لَأَعْلَمُ أَنَّ اللهَ أَرْحَمَ بِي مِنْكِ، وَأَوْصَلَ لَكِ مِنِّي، وَلَكِنَّهُ لَذْعُ جَمْرِ الْفِرَاقِ يَكْوِي كَبِدِي وَقَلْبِي كَيًّا، وَيَشْوِي بَاطِنِي شَيًّا، وَلَا يَكَادُ يُبْقِي لِي مِنْ تَجَلُّدِي شَيْئًا.
يَا انْصِدَاعَ الْقَلْبِ الَّذِي يُسَمُّونَهُ الْحَسْرَةَ!!
مَتَى يَجِدُ قَلْبِي مُسْتَقَرَّهُ؟!
بَيْدَ أَنَّ فِي اللهِ عِوَضًا مِنْ كُلِّ ذَاهِب.
بَيْدَ أَنَّ فِي اللهِ غُنْيَةً مِنْ كُلِّ هَالِك.
وَاللَّهُ - جَلَّ وَعَلَا - البَاقِي وَحْدَهُ، وَاللَّهُ - جَلَّ وَعَلَا - بِيَدِهِ مَقَالِيدُ الأُمُورِ، يَفْعَلُ مَا يَشَاءُ وَيَحْكُمُ بِمَا يُرِيدُ.
وَمَا أَضْيَعَ الْوَلَدَ، يَفْقِدُ دُعَاءَ السَّنَدِ! وَهُوَ يُوَاجِهُ الْعَالَمَ كُلَّهُ مَكْشُوفَ الصَّدْرِ عَارِيَهُ، وَمَا أَقَّلَ مِنَ الْعَطَاءِ حَظَّهُ! وَمَا أَبْخَسَ مِنَ الْمَعْرُوفِ نَصِيبَهُ!
بَيْدَ أَنَّهُ فِي اللهِ عِوَضٌ مِنْ كُلِّ هَالِكٍ، وَغُنْيَةٌ مِنْ كُلِّ ذَاهِبٍ، هُوَ اللهُ وَحْدَهُ بِيَدِهِ مَقَالِيدُ الأُمُورِ، يَفْعَلُ مَا يَشَاءُ، وَيَقْضِي بِمَا يُرِيدُ، غَيْرَ أَنَّهُ لَذْعُ جَمْرِ الْفِرَاقِ يَكْوِي قَلْبِيِ وَكَبِدِي كَيًّا، وَيَشْوِي بَاطِنِي شَيًّا، وَيَكَادُ لَا يُبْقِي لِي مِنْ تَجَلُّدِيِ شَيْئًا.
وَبَكَيْتُ كَالطِّفْلِ الذَّلِيلِ أَنَا الَّذِي     مَا لَانَ فِي صَعْبِ الْحَوَادِثِ مِقْوَدِي
وَاللهُ - جَلَّ وَعَلَا - المسْئُولُ أَنْ يَرْحَمَكِ رَحْمَةً وَاسِعَة.
وَأَنْ يُجَافِيَ الأَرْضَ عَنْ جَنْبَيْكِ.
وَأَنْ يُحْسِنَ وِفَادَتَكِ، وَيُعْلِيَ فِي الجَنَّةِ دَرَجَتَكِ.
وَأَنْ يَجْعَلَ لَيْلَتَكِ هَذِهِ لَيْلَةَ الْقُدُومِ عَلَى الْجَنَّةِ، لَا لَيْلَةَ الْوُرُودِ عَلَى النَّارِ.
وَمَا كَانَ مِنْ شَيْءٍ خُولِفَتْ فِيهِ السُّنَّةُ، أَوْ خُرِجَ فِيهِ عَنِ الدَّعْوَةِ إِلَيْهَا فَأَنَا مِنْهُ بَرِيءٌ، وَاللَّهُ يَهْدِي الْجَمِيعَ إِلَى سَوَاءِ الصِّرَاطِ الْمُسْتَقِيمِ،  وَهُوَ وَحْدَهُ الْمُعْطِي، وَالمَانُّ لَا مَانَّ سِوَاهُ، وَلَا رَازِقَ غَيْرُهُ.
وَأَسْأَلُ اللهَ جَلَّتْ قُدْرَتُهُ أَنْ يُحْسِنَ خِتَامَنَا، وَأَنْ يَشْرَحَ صُدُورَنَا، وَأَنْ يُلْهِمَنَا رُشْدَنَا، وَأَنْ يَعْفُوَ عَنَّا أَجْمَعِينَ.
وَلَا يُقَالُ إِلَّا مَا يَجِبُ أَنْ يُقَالَ: "إِنَّا للهِ وَإِنَّا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعُونَ، اللَّهُمَّ أْجُرْنِي فِي مُصِيبَتِي، وَأخْلِف لِي خَيْرًا مِنْهَا".
 وَصَلَّى اللهُ وَسَلَّمَ عَلَى نَبِيِّنَا مُحَمَّدٍ وَعَلَى آلِهِ وَأَصْحَابِهِ أَجْمَعِينَ

المصدر :موقع فضيلة الشيخ محمد سعيد رسلان

Thursday, January 12, 2012

"If I was asked where is Allah?" I would say above the Heaven".


On the authority of Sadaqah, [who] said:

I heard Sulaymaan at-Taymee saying: "If I was asked where is Allah?" I would say above the Heaven".
Sulaymaan is from the leading Imaams of [the People of] al-Basrah in knowledge and action.
Source: "Mukhtasar al-Uluww" of adh-Dhahabi, (p. 133).
Note: Al-Laalikaa'ee reported this also (2/92). Sadaqah, he is Ibn al-Muntasir, Abu Shu'bah ash-Sha'baanee, Abu Zur'ah said: "The is no harm in him" all of its men (i.e. the narrators) are trustworthy, and al-Bukhaaree narrated it in "mu'allaq" form in "Af'aal ul-'Ibaad" (p. 71
Source: http://www.abovethethrone.com/arsh/

Saturday, January 7, 2012

رحمك الله يا أمى






وبعد كل هذه السنوات وقد مرعلى وفاتك تسعة عشرعاما

وبعد كل هذه السنوات ما زلت أستيقظ من نومى ودمعتى على خدى لأننى رأيتك فى منامى

ما زلت أشتاق إليك

إشتاق إلى نظرة حانية منك... إلى دعاءمخلص بالتوفيق أسمعه
إشتاق إلى نصيحة نابعة من قلب لم يكن لى سوى المحبة
أشتاق إلى أناديك بأحلى كلمة ممكن لإنسان أن ينادى بها إنسان

أمى

مازلت أشتاق إلى بسمتك،إلى طلتك،إلى ضمتك
أشتاق إلى وجودك فى حياتى

أشتاق إليك يا أمى فى لحظات كثيرة من حياتى بل أشتاق إليك فى كل لحظة من حياتى

فى لحظة نجاحى أشتاقك وفى لحظة فشلى أشتاقك

وبعد كل هذه السنوات هل وفيتك حقك؟؟

فى الدعاء وهو ما يجب أن أقوم به فى كل صلاة وعند كل سجود

هل وفيتك حقك فى فعل أى شئ ممكن يجلب لك أجرا وثوابا بعد إنقطاع عملك ؟؟

لا...... والله لم أوفيك حقك

إلى أبنائى جميعا

إذا كانت أمك ما زالت على قيد الحياة أذهب إلى قدميها وأمكث هناك

مرغ خدك بملامسة يديها الحانيتين وأطلب من الله أن تطول هذه اللحظة ،أن تطول للأبد

قبل رأسها... أشبع نظرك من النظر إليها مرات ومرات فقد تكون  آخر نظراتك إليها
وأسألها عما تريد، بل من غير أن تسأل

أنت تعرف ما تريده أمك

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Friday, January 6, 2012

When Friends Become Enemies


Allaah, the Most High, says:
سُوۡرَةُ الزّخرُف 
 

الْأَخِلَّاء يَوْمَئِذٍ بَعْضُهُمْ لِبَعْضٍ عَدُوٌّ إِلَّا الْمُتَّقِينَ )67 )
Friends on that Day will be foes one to another except the pious who fear Allaah (al-Muttaqoon).”
az-Zukhruf (43):67
Indeed the enmity between these friends springs from the source of their worldly love of one another since they united upon evil, and were indulgent with regard to one another’s misguidance. So on that Day they will blame one another for the consequences of their misguidance and the result of their evil. On that Day they will become adversaries heaping abuse on one another when once they had been friends who exchanged secrets. On that Day the oppressor who loved unjustifiably will bite his hand in regret, remorse and distress – and regret will be of no benefit then.
سُوۡرَةُ الفُرقان
وَيَوۡمَ يَعَضُّ ٱلظَّالِمُ عَلَىٰ يَدَيۡهِ يَقُولُ يَـٰلَيۡتَنِى ٱتَّخَذۡتُ مَعَ ٱلرَّسُولِ سَبِيلاً۬ (٢٧) يَـٰوَيۡلَتَىٰ لَيۡتَنِى لَمۡ أَتَّخِذۡ فُلَانًا خَلِيلاً۬ (٢٨) لَّقَدۡ أَضَلَّنِى عَنِ ٱلذِّڪۡرِ بَعۡدَ إِذۡ جَآءَنِى‌ۗ وَڪَانَ ٱلشَّيۡطَـٰنُ لِلۡإِنسَـٰنِ خَذُولاً۬ (٢٩
“And (remember) the Day when the wrongdoer will bite his hands, he will say: ‘Oh! Would that I had taken a path with the Messenger (Muhammad salAllaahu alayhi wasallam). Ah! Woe to me! Would that I had never taken so-and-so as a friend! He indeed led me astray from the Reminder (the Qur’aan) after it had come to me. And Satan is ever a deserter to man in the hour of need.’”
 al-Furqaan (25):27-29

All his friends round about will be silent as he raises his grieving voice in mournful tones, but no one will respond to him, he has lost every loved one and close friend, so he begins to bite his hands in regret, remorse and sorrow … and biting on one hand will not suffice him, rather he bites one and then the other or both together due to severe anguish.
Whilst the former friends are lost in their recriminations and their regrets, those who loved one another for Allaah’s sake and formed ties for Him and were sincere towards each other will be surrounded with security, calm and tranquility.
سُوۡرَةُ الزّخرُف
يَـٰعِبَادِ لَا خَوۡفٌ عَلَيۡكُمُ ٱلۡيَوۡمَ وَلَآ أَنتُمۡ تَحۡزَنُونَ (٦٨
“My worshippers! No fear shall be on you this Day nor shall you grieve.”
az-Zukhruf (43):68
‘O Allaah, gather our hearts upon your prescribed way, and make us from those who love You, and from those who love those who love You, since we know that a person will be raised up along with those he loves.’

From Anas ibn Maalik who said that a man said to the Prophet (salAllaahu alayhi wasallam), “When will the Hour be, O Messenger of Allah?” He replied, “What have you prepared for it?” He said: “I have not prepared for it a great deal of prayer, fasting or charity, but I love Allah and His Messnger.” He (salAllahu ‘alayhi wasallam) said, “You will be with those whom you love.”1
Footnote:
1. Reported by al-Bukhaaree [Eng. trans. 8/123-124/no.192] Muslim [Eng. trans. 4/1386/no.6378] and others, and there are similar narrations from ‘Abdullaah ibn Mas’ood, Aboo Moosa al-Ash’aree and Safwaan ibn ‘Assaal, radiyallaahu ‘anhum.

Source: Love & Hate for the Sake of Allaah | Shaykh Saleem al-Hilaalee

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